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Living Fearlessly

Fearless. It’s a beautiful word that implies fewer limitations, more opportunities, and a life full of adventure. Yet, so often fear keeps us from pursuing the things that make us happy—including something as simple as going out with friends on a Friday night.

That’s why Fearless by Logan Doughty is so important.

Written as “A Woman’s Guide to Personal Self Protection,” Fearless is about creating a lifestyle, of which only a portion is physical self defense. It’s about being proactive, lowering unhealthy levels of anxiety, and deescalating conflict.

“When I look at self defense as my only tool, that’s missing the point,” explains Doughty. “Think creatively. If this is going south, I’m going to start moving before it goes too far south.”

The ten principles Doughty promotes can be broken down into three categories: physical, mental, and environmental preparation. Instead of letting your low grade anxiety keep you living in the dark, let it motivate you to act in a way that is healthy for your lifestyle.

For example, when you move into a new apartment, ask your landlord for permission to change the locks on your door to make sure you know who has a copy of every key. Run through scenarios in situations that make you fearful to determine how you will overcome an attacker and get away. Carry pepper spray, and know how to use it.

Doughty decided to publish Fearless as an extension of the classes he offers on Personal Self Protection. It began as a quick way to reach those who may not be able to attend a class. The goal is not only to reach more people, but to provide more relatable content.

“The people who are assaulted are not Mixed Martial Arts experts. I’ve seen classes that are ridiculous. Just because someone is a weight-lifting fighter, doesn’t make them a great self defense instructor,” he says.

Fighting skills are personal, and too often, perishable. If you aren’t using them on a daily basis, it can be easy to forget them. However, establishing a routine that uses your principles can prove invaluable in situations after certain defense moves are long forgotten.

Doughty also talks about how to use weapons like pepper spray and stun guns.

“Really, you’re safer now than you’ve ever been. However, we are more anxious than we’ve ever been. The solution is not in the fighting. It’s only a tiny part of the solution,” he explains. “I look at these situations like they’re problems to be solved. If I don’t run around like everything is going to fall apart at any moment, then I’m not going to fall apart.”

Learning how to trust your instincts and your abilities is the first step in cultivating your fearless lifestyle. If you are interested in taking one of Doughty’s Personal Self Protection classes, or in purchasing his new book, Fearless, visit his website: www.pspqualified.com.

Join us for a Lunch & Learn with Logan Doughty on Thursday, April 13 from 12:15-1. Logan will be discussing a few techniques and his new book! Bring your own lunch, and let us know you’re coming by emailing editorial@beckmediagroup.com!

Fearless Release Party

We are excited to sponsor the official release party for Fearless–A Woman’s Guide to Self Protection by Logan Doughty at Parkway Brewing Company on Sunday, Marcy 26!

The event will begin at 4 pm, and will feature the author Logan Doughty, also owner and instructor at Personal Self Protection LLC.
Guests can use this opportunity to participate in a question and answer session on Personal Self Protection, promotions throughout the evening, raffle drawings, and more!

Those who purchase Fearless will receive their own SABRE pepper spray, and can have the book signed while they are there. Foster Burton, lead singer of Mad Iguanas, and Teresa Berry, of SARA Roanoke, will also be in attendance.

There is no cover charge for this event. RSVP on Facebook, and let us know you are coming!

 

 

Weapons of Fitness

The more we watch the news, the more it seems that being able to defend yourself is a necessity to women. We hear stories of women who fought and got away, and others that weren’t as fortunate. That exact reason is why Avital Zeisler wrote her book Weapons of Fitness. This book strives to teach women three things: self-defense, fitness, and self-discovery.
bellawebbookIn this book Zeisler tells her story of how as a young child she could always depend on her father to be her bodyguard. Even as she grew older into a teenager, she knew that her dad would always protect her when she needed it. After an odd, and mildly inappropriate, run-in with a neighbor, her father enrolled her in a self-defense class where she learned how to ward off an attacker. It was in this class where she excelled and rose to the top of her class. She was enrolled in this class because her father wanted her to be able to defend herself if the need ever arose. A few years later, a trusted long-time boyfriend raped her during what seemed like a meaningless argument that suddenly turned violent. No one understood why when the time came, Zeisler wasn’t able to defend herself… she blanked. As it turns out, many of the methods that are taught in self-defense classes aren’t applicable in a real life situation.
After Zeisler was able to escape and tell her parents, she found that life was different. No longer was she the happy go lucky person that everyone knew before the incident. She was always looking over her shoulder for danger, couldn’t seem to find any sense of hope, and was stuck in a haze of depression. The sad thing is that this sort of thing happens to so many women each year, even in the Roanoke Valley, and many choose to not tell anyone, which means that they don’t seek any sort of help. It is so important that as women we are encouraging one another to do what it takes to be able to stand up for ourselves. The reality is that many of us are willing to shift the responsibility to others by saying things like, “if anything ever happens I’ll just scream and someone will help me.” Do you really want to depend on a stranger to protect you when you could defend yourself?Thankfully, Avital Zeisler was able to rediscover not only herself, but happiness by creating her own technique for women to protect themselves. She knows that this is important because she is a first hand witness to the fact that just because you know self-defense moves, doesn’t mean that you can defend yourself. Zeisler’s method is proven to work in a real life situation. Don’t be the next victim, don’t rely on someone else to protect you, take the first step to learning how to defend yourself by picking up a copy of Weapons of Fitness.

Written by Kathleen Duffy

Words of Wisdom

Your age, your gender, your physical strength—none of it matters if you are not aware of your surroundings, how to prevent an attack, or how to defend yourself if you are attacked. Women (and men) fall victim to assault every day. Staying informed on tactics to prevent assault and ways to defend yourself could save your life. We have compiled a short list of reminders to help young adults living on their own stay safe.

Avoid traveling alone after dark. It sounds simple, but victims often tell themselves that walking home alone will be fine “just this once” or they are lured into a false sense of security that the areas they frequent during the day are safe at night. If you must walk anywhere alone in the dark, be aware of your surroundings. Rapists often look for victims who are distracted or seem lost. Try not to text, update social media, or make social phone calls that can wait until you are safely inside. Take a mental note of escape routes and avoid dimly lit areas as much as possible.

furneauxFight or Flight: Be prepared to run if you need to do so. If the situation allows, many experts recommend that you flee from your assailant as quickly as possible rather than engage in a fight. In The Superwoman’s Survival Guide by Ky Furneaux, she explains, “[The] surge of adrenaline is a survival response that gives you a burst of energy so that you can get away from a threat. If your life is in immediate danger, then capitalize on the short burst of adrenaline that the fight-or-flight response provides and get out of the way.” 

Fight Smarter: If you cannot escape from your attacker, focus your defense by striking the most vulnerable areas on their bodies. Aim for their eyes, nose, throat and groin. Many young adults carry weapons for defense, but Furneaux cautions that the presence of a weapon has the potential to escalate any situation. Be familiar with the items you trust for your defense so your attacker cannot take them and use them against you.

Trust Wisely. People do not make new friends by never speaking to strangers, but that does not mean you should trust someone that you have just met (even a few days prior) with your safety. Take responsibility for your own well being. Make wise decisions, like limiting your alcohol consumption and refusing beverages in open containers at parties. Again, it sounds simple—but many assaults happen in situations where one or both parties are impaired in some way. A victim under the influence of drugs or alcohol is  obviously not responsible for their assault. However, choosing to remain coherent in a situation where you do not know many people will not harm anyone—and a gracious host will understand.

Consider enrolling in Roanoke County’s four-week program, Self-Defense for Women, beginning August 7. Participants will learn the Rape Aggression Defense system from certified instructors who want to help victims learn how to respond to a realistic attack with effective self-defense tactics and techniques.

The Great River Institute is also offering a free introductory seminar on Jiu Jitsu on Wednesday August 20 from 7 pm-9 pm at their Grandin Road location. This seminar will include demonstrations on dealing with emotional and physical confrontations, hostile situations and scenarios, and how to more effectively maintain a positive personal balance. Visit their website for more information.

The courageous step of reporting your assault can help prevent future attacks. In addition to law enforcement, you can reach out to Sexual Assault Response and Awareness, Inc. by calling their 24-hour hotline, 540-981-9352.